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This package will grant you access to the following agreement topics:
Agreements Framework
This tool helps create an overall framework for your open agreement, including deciding together on specific definitions and language used when making agreements. As our boundaries are often put to the test only through experience, this tool will help you put in place procedures for contingency reviews of the open agreements. In addition, the tool will ask you questions about unexpected feelings and confidentiality.
Considerations Regarding Children
This tool helps guide you through the process of deciding on both the spirit and logistics of communication (and confidentiality) around any children that are connected with those making these open agreements.
Sexual Activity Agreements
In any open relationship, discussing safer sex practices and creating clear agreements about them is essential. This document will help you clarify these decisions.
Social Interactions
These agreements are geared more toward poly-type relationships. However, if you are in a swinger-type relationship and you maintain social contact outside of playing, you may also find this agreement document useful.
Time-Limited Agreements
Sometimes agreements need to be made for a more limited period than usual. Reasons for this include wanting to "try on" a new agreement to see if it fits within everyone's comfort zones, or perhaps another established agreement was broken and a different agreement is to be put into place while the boundary break is dealt with. There are many, many reasons for creating a time-limited agreement and you are encouraged to use your ingenuity to put this tool to work.
Time Spent With Others (for swinger-type relationships)
When you're ready to play, it's helpful to have some ground rules about when and how to establish connection with others. These agreements look at who, when, and where encounters might occur.
Agreements Framework
This tool helps create an overall framework for your open agreement, including deciding together on specific definitions and language used when making agreements. As our boundaries are often put to the test only through experience, this tool will help you put in place procedures for contingency reviews of the open agreements. In addition, the tool will ask you questions about unexpected feelings and confidentiality.
Considerations Regarding Children
This tool helps guide you through the process of deciding on both the spirit and logistics of communication (and confidentiality) around any children that are connected with those making these open agreements.
Sexual Activity Agreements
In any open relationship, discussing safer sex practices and creating clear agreements about them is essential. This document will help you clarify these decisions.
Social Interactions
These agreements are geared more toward poly-type relationships. However, if you are in a swinger-type relationship and you maintain social contact outside of playing, you may also find this agreement document useful.
Time-Limited Agreements
Sometimes agreements need to be made for a more limited period than usual. Reasons for this include wanting to "try on" a new agreement to see if it fits within everyone's comfort zones, or perhaps another established agreement was broken and a different agreement is to be put into place while the boundary break is dealt with. There are many, many reasons for creating a time-limited agreement and you are encouraged to use your ingenuity to put this tool to work.
Time Spent With Others (for swinger-type relationships)
When you're ready to play, it's helpful to have some ground rules about when and how to establish connection with others. These agreements look at who, when, and where encounters might occur.
Rules to Swinging Successfully
by Kelly Clark
So you and your partner are considering entering into a swinging relationship. Well, before you start investigating swingers clubs or finding like-minded couples online, there are a few things you should contemplate. Prior to setting out on your swinging journey, you and your partner need to make sure you have a clear, open line of communication, honesty, and trust. Swinging is not a replacement for your relationship or a supplement for the intimacy you and your partner share—it's a way to enhance the bond you and your partner already have and add some extra sexual pleasure and stimulation to your relationship.
Introducing any new element to your relationship can present a challenge and naturally may be met with some degree of skepticism. As a result, it's imperative that you and your mate sit down and discuss the perimeters of your relationship before you even think of entertaining your first couple. Determine what you both want from a swinging relationship. Are you looking to tighten your bond or enhance your relationship? Or do you just want to boost your sexual pleasure? At the same time, clearly define what you don't want out from the swingers' lifestyle. Remember to think about what is important to your partner and what your shared values are. In keeping these things in mind, you'll be better able to create the type of swinging situation you and your partner desire.
Surprisingly, there are a lot of rules that come along with swinging. Many clubs and organized swingers groups have concise guidelines and regulations when it comes to the activities of their members and how couples interact with each other. And, even if you and your mate choose to confine your swinging to your own bedroom, you must still set some ground rules. From the way you'll swing to how you'll keep things safe, you and your partner should lay out a plan before you swing. Here are some items you and your partner should discuss prior to incorporating swinging in your play time.
What are your goals?
When you first start exploring the world of swinging, you and your mate should consider why you have decided to venture into this lifestyle. Why do you want to swing? How will swinging better your relationship and intimacy? Whether your goal is to spice things up in your relationship or enhance your already strong sexual bond, you must contemplate why you and your partner want to swing. If you find that there is more enthusiasm from one side or one of you isn't into it, you may want to step back and revisit the idea at another time. Swinging is about sexual freedom and fun—neither of you should feel pressured or bullied into partaking in this lifestyle.
How will you swing?
Do you and your partner plan to play with just one other couple or multiple couples? How do you plan on finding people to swing with? Will you just switch partners of the opposite sex or make it a group affair? These questions must be answered before you begin swinging as it'll help determine what type of situation and couples you and your partner should be looking for.
What about promiscuity and safety?
While swinging may seem like the antithesis of monogamy, it's not all about having sex with whomever, wherever, whenever. Swinging is also not an excuse to sleep around or engage in reckless sexual behavior. Remember to discuss rules for maintaining your physical and emotional well-being, as well as the health of your relationship. Like any open relationship, swinging can create jealousy and tension, which could in turn be detrimental to your relationship. As a result, you should make clear to your partner the difference between your relationship and your swinging situation. If things get out of hand and jealousy comes into play, stop swinging immediately.
Like with any sexual relationship, you and your mate must put safety first. Yes, engaging in sex with multiple people heightens your risk of contracting STDs and HIV/AIDS; however, practicing safe sex reduces the chances of contracting sexually-transmitted diseases. While you and your partner may already use condoms and dental dam during sex (or at least intend to when others are involved), you should still discuss and document what safe sex practices you'll adhere to. According to resident sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk, "Writing down what works for you supplies a graphic recommendation of precisely what you deem overly unsafe or never dangerous; the visual enables you to rationalize ahead of time exactly what you would do in intimate scenarios." By having a solid, written out game plan, you and your partner will avoid any confusion about safety and have a guarantee that you'll be safe every time.
What are your limits?
Open relationships and those involving swinging are all about sexual experimentation. However, we all have our limits and boundaries. Before you start exploring the swinger lifestyle, or any open relationship for that matter, decide what your limits are. Make sure you and your partner know what each of you is and isn't willing to do, so that no one gets pushed too far. Compare notes, and come up with a list of shared limits and boundaries that you both agree on.
Once you've gone through this brief list and ironed out all the details, you can begin planning how and when you'll play. Just keep in mind that communication is key to making a successful, beneficial, and pleasing swinger relationship for all involved. Check in with your partner, as well as those you swing with, to make sure that everyone remains happy with the situation. If a problem arises, confront it immediately before continuing in the lifestyle. By following these rules, you and your partner are sure to have plenty of fun and great sex in any swinger situation you get into.
So you and your partner are considering entering into a swinging relationship. Well, before you start investigating swingers clubs or finding like-minded couples online, there are a few things you should contemplate. Prior to setting out on your swinging journey, you and your partner need to make sure you have a clear, open line of communication, honesty, and trust. Swinging is not a replacement for your relationship or a supplement for the intimacy you and your partner share—it's a way to enhance the bond you and your partner already have and add some extra sexual pleasure and stimulation to your relationship.
Introducing any new element to your relationship can present a challenge and naturally may be met with some degree of skepticism. As a result, it's imperative that you and your mate sit down and discuss the perimeters of your relationship before you even think of entertaining your first couple. Determine what you both want from a swinging relationship. Are you looking to tighten your bond or enhance your relationship? Or do you just want to boost your sexual pleasure? At the same time, clearly define what you don't want out from the swingers' lifestyle. Remember to think about what is important to your partner and what your shared values are. In keeping these things in mind, you'll be better able to create the type of swinging situation you and your partner desire.
Surprisingly, there are a lot of rules that come along with swinging. Many clubs and organized swingers groups have concise guidelines and regulations when it comes to the activities of their members and how couples interact with each other. And, even if you and your mate choose to confine your swinging to your own bedroom, you must still set some ground rules. From the way you'll swing to how you'll keep things safe, you and your partner should lay out a plan before you swing. Here are some items you and your partner should discuss prior to incorporating swinging in your play time.
What are your goals?
When you first start exploring the world of swinging, you and your mate should consider why you have decided to venture into this lifestyle. Why do you want to swing? How will swinging better your relationship and intimacy? Whether your goal is to spice things up in your relationship or enhance your already strong sexual bond, you must contemplate why you and your partner want to swing. If you find that there is more enthusiasm from one side or one of you isn't into it, you may want to step back and revisit the idea at another time. Swinging is about sexual freedom and fun—neither of you should feel pressured or bullied into partaking in this lifestyle.
How will you swing?
Do you and your partner plan to play with just one other couple or multiple couples? How do you plan on finding people to swing with? Will you just switch partners of the opposite sex or make it a group affair? These questions must be answered before you begin swinging as it'll help determine what type of situation and couples you and your partner should be looking for.
What about promiscuity and safety?
While swinging may seem like the antithesis of monogamy, it's not all about having sex with whomever, wherever, whenever. Swinging is also not an excuse to sleep around or engage in reckless sexual behavior. Remember to discuss rules for maintaining your physical and emotional well-being, as well as the health of your relationship. Like any open relationship, swinging can create jealousy and tension, which could in turn be detrimental to your relationship. As a result, you should make clear to your partner the difference between your relationship and your swinging situation. If things get out of hand and jealousy comes into play, stop swinging immediately.
Like with any sexual relationship, you and your mate must put safety first. Yes, engaging in sex with multiple people heightens your risk of contracting STDs and HIV/AIDS; however, practicing safe sex reduces the chances of contracting sexually-transmitted diseases. While you and your partner may already use condoms and dental dam during sex (or at least intend to when others are involved), you should still discuss and document what safe sex practices you'll adhere to. According to resident sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk, "Writing down what works for you supplies a graphic recommendation of precisely what you deem overly unsafe or never dangerous; the visual enables you to rationalize ahead of time exactly what you would do in intimate scenarios." By having a solid, written out game plan, you and your partner will avoid any confusion about safety and have a guarantee that you'll be safe every time.
What are your limits?
Open relationships and those involving swinging are all about sexual experimentation. However, we all have our limits and boundaries. Before you start exploring the swinger lifestyle, or any open relationship for that matter, decide what your limits are. Make sure you and your partner know what each of you is and isn't willing to do, so that no one gets pushed too far. Compare notes, and come up with a list of shared limits and boundaries that you both agree on.
Once you've gone through this brief list and ironed out all the details, you can begin planning how and when you'll play. Just keep in mind that communication is key to making a successful, beneficial, and pleasing swinger relationship for all involved. Check in with your partner, as well as those you swing with, to make sure that everyone remains happy with the situation. If a problem arises, confront it immediately before continuing in the lifestyle. By following these rules, you and your partner are sure to have plenty of fun and great sex in any swinger situation you get into.
